Hurray for Today!
By Mary Ann F. Gabito
Novaliches High School
There was a time when everything in society was considered clear-cut, precise and absolute. A time when one knew one’s place and one’s role in the family and the community, and one followed the rules simply because they were rules.
Unfortunately, this perfect and orderly world provided rules of conduct for men and women only; it was silent with regards to the rules that apply to the behavior and acceptable norms for the sexes in between.
Up until the late 1990’s, lesbians and gays had a hard time coping with ridicule and discrimination in society. They were often admired for their talents and skills in languages and the arts, and were sought after in the field of fashion and entertainment, but they were seldom taken seriously by other members of society.
Generally, they were considered suitable company in groups when one wanted a good laugh. But separate from a group, once a gay is seen with a man or a lesbian is seen with a woman, once these couples begin to exclusively stay together, society’s air of tolerance and acceptance would almost immediately become either suspicious or disapproving.
In short, lesbians and gays were often considered second class citizens outside their respective circles. For them, the world, with its double standards and judgmental views , was simply unkind.
Society today however seems to be coming to terms with this issue.
The film “Boy ,Girl, Bakla, Tomboy” was recently awarded as the Most Gender Sensitive Film of the 2013 Metro Manila Film Festival. The film shows the story quadruplets (portrayed by Vice Ganda) who were separated as babies and reunited as adults because one of them needed a liver transplant where only a sibling could serve as a possible organ donor.
The film gave the audience a charming insight on the probabilities of having a girl, a boy, a gay and a lesbian in the family. The girl was a typical fashionista, the boy a race car enthusiast and the tomboy a talented singer. Curiously, the gay was the one that stood out from the group, his character being a sensitive, resourceful and family-oriented individual who assists his mother in matters that require decision-making, who takes the initiative in helping the family find the means to make ends meet.
He was quite vocal and expressive in citing views and opinions about the wrongness of a father deserting his family and the injustice of having a mother suffer unnecessarily because of her mother-in-law and her husband’s abandoning her. To his adopted siblings, he often gave advice on how to accept other people’s opinions, explaining that people were often cruel to others who look and act different from them.
He was accused of being uncouth and unlovable by none other than his sister simply because he was gay, and yet when one takes into account his whole character in the film, one does not see him as a “gay” but as a person who feels and experiences happiness, hurt, fear and disappointment, just like everyone else.
And just like everyone else, he copes as best he could, always optimistic and hopeful that thing will always work out in the end.
The film promotes gender awareness subtly, and encourages the audience to see the world in a gay person’s perspective, leading them to accept the fact that being different is not necessarily a bad thing and that a family, despite differences in gender roles and preferences, will always be a family.
Big cheers to society today! It has a long way from being the tight-lipped disapproving judge it was in the past to becoming an understanding and tolerant friend that it is at present. The change has taken a while, but it certainly gives one hope for more positive changes in the future.Student Category
Apat na Mundo…Nagkakaisang Damdamin
Ni Mariella Anne P. Nicolas
Novaliches High School
Mahabang pakikipaglaban, dinala ang nagkakaisang tinig hanggang sa lansangan, patuloy na pinatutunayan at ipinamamalas ang husay at talento sa iba’t ibang larangan para ipakita sa lahat na sila—homosekswals—ay dapat bigyan ng puwang at tanggapin sa ating lipunan bilang isang sector na kapaki-pakinabang, maipagmamalaki at kayang magbigay ng karangalan sa bansa. At sila’y nagtagumpay, naipasa ang “Lesbian and Gay Rights Act of 1990”.
Ang pamilya bilang pinakamaliit na unit ng ating lipunan ang may pinakamalaking impluwensya sa pag-hubog ng ating pagkatao, anuman ang ating kasarian, Girl, Boy, Bakla o Tomboy man. Malinaw na naipakita sa pelikula sa pamamagitan ng daloy ng mga pangyayari na hindi nahirapan sina Mark (bakla) at Panying (tomboy) na tanggapin ang kanilang pagkatao, dahil buong-buong niyakap ng kanilang ina (Pia) ang kung anumang pagkatao mayroon sila. Pantay at dalisay na pagmamahal na tagos sa puso ng bawat manunuod ang ibinigay niya maging sa dalawang anak na nawalay nang higit dalawampung taon.
Nakabatay sa ating nararamdaman at kakayahang magpakita ng pagpapahalaga at malasakit sa ating kapwa at pamilya ang tunay na sukatan ng ating pagkatao at hindi sa ating kasarian. Buong galing itong ipinakita sa pelikula na handang mag-sakripisyo ang magkakapatid sa ikabubuti ng bawat isa nang nagawang magnakaw ni Mark para kay Panying, nagawang maghirap ni Girly (babae) para sa maysakit na si Peter (lalaki) at nang ibinigay ni Mark ang bahagi ng kanyang atay kay Peter.
Napatunayan din na magkaiba man ang mundo nila, sila’y magkadugo, magkakaputol ng pusod at kayang magkaisang damdamin.
Nag-iwan ito ng tatak na pare-pareho tayong nilalang ng Diyos, Girl, Boy, Bakla o Tomboy ka man, pantay ang karapatan nating tumanggap at magbigay ng pagmamahal sa mga taong nakapaligid sa atin. Higit sa lahat, pantay tayo ng karapatang patunayang may halaga tayo sa lipunang ating ginagalawan.
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